From Then To Now

In this walk of faith,
I’ve waited just to see manifestations
Of the good vibes I put out in the present.
In intimate sessions I have cried out for something more,
I’ve even reached out of my convictions and have reached out for the things of lore.
But in the end, when I wake up next to you
I don’t have to question anything I’ve laid down at the ocean shores.
I let the sun rays glean upon my face
As you wipe away my tears of joy with handkerchiefs of grace.
I don’t have to think about the places I have been
Since you speak to me like royalty and shower me with loyalty.
Funny how from then to now you see that little boy in me.
Placing kisses on his heart and holding hands beneath the stars.
At times I fall apart but you’ll be there to pick me up,
Funny how from then to now, you were there right from the start.
I couldn’t see you.
Blinded by noises and the ignorance of people,
But now that I have seen you,
I can build myself to build our yokes up as an equal.
You can build yourself into a woman that believes in true love again…
It’s kinda funny how every now and then,
I can see from then to now how things we miss can breath again…
And again…
And again…
And again.

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My Escape to Cancer

This isn’t because you’ve asked me to, it’s only because you cared.
You’ve shared the hills of my life with your own,
Staring out as clouds disappear from your balcony.
With genuine laughter we recount stories of the good ol days,
Made waves as oceans gaze at us two.
It’s you,
That has one key to unlock things no world has ever seen in me.
It’s you,
That has allowed me to explore parts of myself that I never knew.
But it’s not because you’ve asked me to,  It’s only because you were there.
As the night skies fall and we fade into our shells
I’ll think of you,
My Escape to Cancer.

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The Biography Series Part 2: She Don’t Even Know It…

If ever there was a lesson that took years for me to learn, it was the one given to me by a childhood friend of mine. I will always call her friend because she planted a seed so valuable inside of me, that it took many seasons of watering and many hands to till before it could sprout into the concepts I hold today. I’ll never forgot the words she spoke to me that day, and I will always remember the effect it had on me. This is what Victoria doesn’t know.

Victoria Nellum

Victoria Nellum

Victoria Nellum was my crush in the 7th grade at Larkspur Middle School. It was her beauty and style, and her always energetic and talkative personality that drew me to her. We began conversations as friends attending a few of the same classes until finally we exchanged numbers and began a time period of innocent courting. Victoria had no idea I was absolutely infatuated with her. Anytime she spoke, even if it was to answer a prompted question, I would lean my ear in her direction just to catch a wind of her inflections. We would youthfully hold hands in the hallways or lean up against our lockers, and I would eagerly await for the moment the “minute bell” rang so that I could press my lips against hers to say goodbye.

One day after school, we were having one of our many phone conversations about any and everything,  and I, being the charmer that I was, mustered enough bravado to tell Victoria I love her. I remember the pause of silence that lasted what seemed like an entire minute. She asked me what I had said again and I said, “I love you.” Victoria sighed then replied “How can you love me? You don’t even know what love is. You don’t love me, you just think you do.”

Victoria Nellum

Victoria Nellum

As my heart began to sink, and my throat dried up and tightened from the sting of rejection, it hit me. I really don’t know what love is. Because in the moment of her response, all those thoughts of her melodic voice, her lips pressed against mine, and her sweet perfume all faded away. When my love given wasn’t reciprocated, I retreated, carrying with me my limited conception of love.

Victoria taught me a valuable lesson then, even though it took years to solidify the concept through learning experiences with other people. I learned in that moment the difference between love and infatuation.

No matter how strong the infatuation is, the feeling is based on a limited perspective of the whole person. Its easy to be infatuated with someone’s beauty, or the common interests you share, or the things that person likes because you’re learning about a whole person and the possibilities of the human desire have no end. But infatuation is put to the test when you uncover that this person, is just a person, with mistakes and mood shifts, challenges and faults, or just traits that may rub you the wrong way.

Victoria was right in that, first of all we were just kids. How could we possibly know anything about loving someone else? But secondly, we hadn’t taken any time in looking deep into one another and finding out who we were actually courting. Again being a kid, all I knew was I liked Phys Ed. and that I was spending lunch and class breaks with a girl that actually wanted to be around me.

Breaking out of infatuation into love takes a trial, a situation, or circumstance that challenges the relationship but bonds the two people involved together. It’s difficult to love someone through a disruption, but what I’ve discovered is that using discernment and wisdom on the front end makes the journey easier down the line. When you are able to read the intentions of a man’s heart, you can accept them for who they are, and choose to navigate the challenges of your life with or without them. Even if the challenge is them. 

Bishop Clinton Foster would constantly tell me “When people show you who they really are, you should believe them the first time.” Study a person’s deeds and words and see if they align with the morals and values they claim to uphold. Then compare them to your own values and see if they are in harmony. This is the way into love.

Let me be clear in saying that just because there isn’t alignment between to beings now, doesn’t mean there can’t be alignment at a later point. This all depends on the life stage both beings are in. And also just because someone doesn’t have the same morals or values as yourself does not mean they should be demonized or outcast. Everyone in this world has something unique to bring to the table, it’s you who decides whether to add it on your plate and eat it or not. We cause more problems for ourselves when we feel that we “have to” entertain the person in front of us, or that it’s polite to grit and bear the situations we are put in with other people. We don’t, and there is way of escape in any situation.

Victoria Nellum

Victoria Nellum

So to Victoria, who gave me my first encounter with the complexities of what love isn’t, Thank you, for checking my ignorance about love at the door, and sending me on my journey to try again. A true friend will tell you the truth at all times, and this one lesson has never lied. From friend to friend, I love you.

 

 

The Biography Series Part 1

The Biography Series Part 1

Epistle to the Man of Deceit & Valor

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In so much as there are men of deceit, there are also men of valor and honor. So much as there are men of war and hate, there are also men of love and peace. In so much as there are men, who build and dwell in the web of lies, there also be men, who envision a world beyond the veil of darkness, and search for the beauty in truth, even despite not having tasted the bittersweet nectar of truth’s glory while they exist.

I appeal to the latter of these men.

George Jackson, 1971

George Jackson, 1971

I call on the presence and wisdom of my beloved elders, to speak through me their visions of life and liberty, of love and regeneration. I call on those eternal men, who’s blood still flow and beat the drums of eternal hearts, those men to whom we look towards and stare in their captured gazes for guidance in times of turmoil and strife. Those men, who gave us pillars to lean on in times of lack, whose words give us food for strength and dignity. For their fight, like ours, is not with the physical flesh and blood or bone and muscle, but against the unseen vices of evil council and evil deeds, evil thoughts and evil hierarchy. Their struggle, like ours, is against greed and tyranny, against the pitting of man against man, man against nature, man against the knowledge of himself. I call on the remembrance of those men, who spoke truth to power, and whose truth will ring the bell of freedom that chimes and sways in each and every one of us to this day.

Victor Hugo, 1876

Victor Hugo, 1876

It is now time for today’s  Men of Valor and Virtue, to carve his presence in the mantle of eternity; living in the moment will not grant anyone everlasting life. The mediums we choose to use now to express our thoughts and visions, need to be mediums of safekeeping, stored and incorruptible. For the time is come when we shall know the meaning of “he who controls the press…” Press and history is a tool and a weapon, a brick and a gun. They can be used to build connections, as well as destroy the existence of nations.

Baltimore Riots, 2015

Baltimore Riots, 2015

Men, we have been reduced to nothing but our word. Our word is all that we own. From these words we will shall plant seeds that will bear fruit past the existence that we’ve been granted. From these words we are to utter truths, even when our voices quiver and our hands sweat, or when our stomach rumbles from hunger and our muscles clench for the blow, we shall give our truth until our last breath is taken.

The Stono Rebellion

The Stono Rebellion

The People have asked questions to the rulers of nations to find out they are accountable to no thing. The rules that the common man submit to are not the rules that govern the governors. The lot of us understand this and yet, the lot of us have no idea where to find shelter, since the very ones that govern provide the shelter for the governed. How have we fallen into this condition? We search for some one or thing outside of ourselves to blame, when the answer is clearly found from within.

Frederick Douglass

Frederick Douglass

We, the people, have given up our own powerful might. We have relinquished our right to freedom by allowing someone, assumed to operate in common interests, to determine the definition of what freedom should appear to be. No one should define the freedom of a being other than the being itself, whether that being be a sole person, a group of people, a neighborhood, or a nation.

We, as an entire race of human beings, have allowed ourselves to be defined by men with no internal moral compass, thus, the definitions these men conceive and the laws they create, govern and define only the carnal nature of man, disregarding the notion that man is equally spiritual.

Alan Watts

Alan Watts

Those of you, who have chosen to navigate this world spiritually, who have tasted the funk of persecution with pure hearts, who have lost the strength of your voices by desperately crying out for justice for yourselves and your neighbor and yet, sought no revenge, who have stayed the course of righteousness no matter how far you have strayed into the entrenching wilderness; because you’ve quieted yourselves and harkened your ear to The Voice above all others, you will enter into Peace because you have sought after it diligently.

Those of you who have chosen to follow the voices of spectacle, who have not looked down at your feet to witness the blood and tears that stain the rungs of your ladder, who hold tightly your grasp on the treasures that is in man’s heart, who rejoice only at the loss of an enemy and and cry only at your own losses; you too will find your peace.

I speak not of deities or dogma. Nor do I site religion, or claim to be anyone but a man, with a platform to speak my truth. In the end, like all things, it is the being who decides its own direction.

Listen for your truth. Then follow only it.

Ase.

Follow Your Truth

Follow Your Truth

My Truth About Love Part 5

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Love.

This journey of understanding her is ever evolving, ever shifting, and ever changing. My journey has caused some euphoric sky scrapping highs and earth shattering lows. But I can honestly say that in her entirety, Love is beautiful, because in experiencing her through the years I’ve allowed myself to be open to understanding the vastness of my own capabilities. My truth about Love is that the only failure in experiencing her, is not learning something about your self from her. 

I recently had to end an on going relationship with a wonderful woman because our understandings and expressions of Love weren’t in harmony with one another, thus when she poured into me her expressions of Love, I was closed. Likewise, when I expressed my heart’s desires to her, she would be closed. We were both expressing the deepest sentiments of the heart based on our understanding, yet, those expressions were being cast upon emotional brick walls. This isn’t the fault of either of us and it doesn’t make us horrible people, it just simply means that we both must increase our understanding of what Love is so that we can provide a safe haven for one another or our next partners to express our needs and desires in a productive way.

The right thing at the wrong time can still cause damage, so it is with Love. Love is painful when we hesitate instead of fully accepting Love for what Love is. It can also be counterproductive when we don’t embrace how receiving and giving Love makes us feel.

From this relationship experience I learned some key things about myself. Although I’m comfortable expressing myself in the capacity of a poet and writer, my verbal confidence as a person needs to improve if ever I want Love to understand what is dear to me. Love will evolve and expand her shelter if you ask her to. In retrospect, I became frustrated with Love when I wasn’t receiving what I needed, but having disbelief in her capabilities I failed to effectively communicate those needs and was left with empty hands. Hints the phrase a closed mouth don’t get fed.

I also learned that as I grow and evolve, so does my thirst for understanding and navigating the world around me. Being an emotional man, I’m extremely sensitive to energy shifts in various situations, and I physically feel moments very intensely. This gift needs to be a part of myself that first I learn to trust, and second that I choose to allow my partner to see and nurture. Remaining closed will cause me to spend my existence distrusting my partner, second guessing myself in situations of importance, and not walking in my greatest potential.

In all I have to expand my faith and belief in what the power of Love can actually do. So often we lean on past failures of what we thought Love was, when in reality we’ve already evolved from that place in time.
I learned that Love can in fact grow, and she teaches me this by experiencing with
her the process of her expansion…

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My Truth About Love Part 4

The Biography Series Part 1: Never Seen A Man Cry

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Clinton Foster with his grandson

Anyone who has ever been in the presence of Bishop Clinton Foster
could recount stories about him with a genuine smile. “Pops,” as he is affectionately called by those close to him, is probably the most generous man I had ever met in all my 30 years. His smile, his aura, and his strength are parts of him that he graciously gives to anyone who is willing to receive it; and so many people have received them. Having preached many a Sundays across the nation and being Lead Pastor of City Refuge International Church in San Diego, CA, Pops has transformed many lives for the better. One of those lives feels forever indebted to Pops, not only for what he had given him, but for why Pops gave it. This story is of Pops and that particular man.

On a crisp Sunday afternoon in Sunny San Diego, a young man was walking up the sidewalk to a church that sat on the hill. Invited by a friend of his who attended the City of Refuge of International Church, he remembered days when he told himself he would never step foot inside another church again. Being the son of a pastor and knowing the word wasn’t enough to keep him in a church pew, but the conversation he had with his friend compelled him to walk up the steps in the direction towards the Gospel music blaring through the custom carved wooden doors.  When he stepped inside, his sneakers sank into plush red carpet as he nervously made hi way down the aisle to rows of chairs on either side. He could feel the unfamiliar eyes darting in his direction. The bass from the music echoed in his chest somewhat easing the pounding in his heart. He located his friend who gave him a comforting smile, then he began to scan the sanctuary that encompassed him. His eyes fell upon the glass pulpit on the stage in front  of him,  and then he saw them….

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Bishop Clinton & Pastor Cassandra Foster on Pastor’s Appreciation Day

The congregation  rejoiced as the most beautiful people the young man had ever seen walked down the aisle of the church. They were holding hands and smiling so  bright the young man thought he could count a thousand teeth. He could tell by their aura that they were the Pastor and First Lady of the church. They were both elegantly dressed, the man having on a sharply tailored suit and his wife seemed to float in a dazzling  suit jacket and skirt. They’re  demeanor was graceful, and as they praised God in a world made just for them two, they seemed to be genuinely having  the time of their lives.

The young man couldn’t break his eyes from the couple’s grasp. He was thoroughly captivated. As the service went on, he immediately noticed that the Pastor’s melodic message was inviting and didn’t carry the forceful overtones he was so used to. The Pastor seemed so excited to  preach his sermon, almost like he had been holding in breaking news all week and had finally been given the chance to spill the beans. While he preached he barely looked at any notes and amazingly, he was able to breathe fresh revelation into the people who were seated in front of him.

Towards the end of service, the Pastor began to provide individual prayers to  the congregation. One by one, the willing men, women, and even children received a prophetic word of loving truths from the Pastor that brought nurturing and healing to their conditions. The young man was waiting for the false prosperity message or promise of miracles the people will never attain but surprisingly, they never came.

The Pastor scanned the room, found the young man’s eyes. extended a warm grin and said, “You don’t know what you’ve walked into do you?” The young man could do nothing but shake his head no. The Pastor flashed another one of his bright smiles and said, “I’ve been picking you up in the Spirit. You’ve been searching a long time son. I don’t know you. I’ve never met you a day in my life, but I’ve been waiting for you. I knew it was you as soon as I walked through the door.” The young man was stunned. “Who is this guy and why is he talking to me like this,” he thought, but his lips never moved. Entranced, his eyes remained upon the pulpit. “Son, don’t leave out of here without speaking to me.” The young man sat speechless until the benediction.

When service ended the young man went directly to the preacher and shook his hand. “Did you enjoy the service?” the Preacher asked. “I did.” replied the young man. “Is there anyway I can set up a meeting with you? I have a few questions about the Bible and things you said in your sermon.” The pastor grinned graciously, “Of course. How about Wednesday before Bible Study. My office is just back here. You can ask any question you like” “That will work, sir I appreciate it.” And with that, the young man walked away, slightly changed, slightly skeptical, but very much so intrigued.

That was my first ever interaction with Bishop Clinton Foster and little did I know at that time, this man would play a key role in my transition from a young man into the man I am today.

Only a few men that I’ve personally met could give nuggets of wisdom every time they decided to speak, and Clinton Foster is one of those men. Pops is a poetic storyteller, and could mesmerize audiences of few or many with stories of his own life experiences, stories he’s read or heard, or even stories that he painted from his imagination to illustrate a point he was attempting to make clear.  I’ll never forget the time I asked Pops about Jesus feeding the 5000 with 4 loaves of bread and 5 fish. He explained to me that this was possible, and began to tell the story of his mother inviting a large 1004402_531810620216840_1649506439_namount of people from his church to come to their home for Sunday dinner. Pops being a young boy then, said he was angry because he knew there wasn’t enough food to go around and he was going to have to sacrifice his portion of his mother’s chicken to the guests. He said they all gathered around the table, blessed the food, and when it was all said and done, everyone’s belly was full including his, and he remembered seeing his mother in the kitchen packing up the leftovers in Tupperware! He told me “Had I not been there I wouldn’t have believed it myself.” Pops had so many stories of his mother who passed away a little over 20 years ago.  I never had the honor of meeting  her, but you can see the beauty that this woman carried anytime Pops spoke of her.

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Clinton Forster and son Clinton Jr.

As a devoted father and grandfather, Pops has raised many children into adults, not differentiating whether they were biologically his or not. Because of this, he can proudly say he has over 10 grandchildren, many godchildren, and many more people that just see him as the father they wish they could’ve had.  He’s the type of man that would hold your hand long enough for you to get up after a fall, help you wipe the dirt off of your knees and encourage you to walk on your own towards your destiny. He assures you that he’s right there in case you fall again, and he’s waiting to celebrate when you accomplish even the little steps in life’s journey. There were times when I took off running towards life at full sprint, and I would look back and Pops would be there guiding and watching. Ever present and always there when I needed him.

Pops has a peacefully powerful voice that was strong enough to tear down the mental walls set up by anyone he came across. His dictation is precise enough to slice through false bravado, and like a surgeon he slowly takes away the diseases of the heart for those that would allow it; and I’ve seen this first hand. Often times I would bring friends to him, and without ever knowing Pops they would open up and him and he could speak to their issues and give common sense remedies. And Pops always seemed to have a remedy, even when he admitted he didn’t have one. There was an overwhelming comfort in him that he would seek it out or give you the tools to find the answer yourself. 313577_282250271820180_1377147232_n

Pops is most importantly a humble and honorable man,  even as people have tried to place him on a pedestal as a Pastor. He encouraged people to be themselves 100% and accept their mistakes so that they can move from them.  He would always tell me “Son, don’t let people hold you to your mistakes. God ain’t trippin off that. He judges the purity of your heart.”

Pops would quickly admit over the pulpit  that he has shortcomings just like any other human being, letting the congregation know that as much as they’re trying to make it into heaven,  he too is on a daily mission of learning and getting things right in his own life. Most people have never encountered a pastor that genuinely  cared more about the  personal growth of the congregation than the accolades he could receive from them.

Having served as an armor bearer under Pops, I personally saw the mental and physical toll he took every Sunday walking in the capacity of a Shepard.  There were moments when he was literally soaked from head to toe in exhaustion, passing out in his office and needing assistance to get on his feet, but he willingly sacrificed his body every Sunday to give a message of truth so that the people could break from mental and spiritual bondage. “If you’re in ministry for glamour,” he would say breathing heavily on his office couch, “It wasn’t God that called you to it.”

Being this close to Pops also afforded me the opportunity to see parts of the process he took in walking in his gifting. One Sunday morning I came into his office to prep for morning service and he was sitting at his desk with a slightly confused look. He glanced up at me and said “Son, I have no idea what I’m about to preach this morning.” He held up a piece paper with just a scripture and a few words on it. I said, “Really Pops? What are you going to do?” He then began to tell me the story of a time when he had written what he thought at the time was his best sermon for a church he was visiting. He said he had his scriptures marked in his Bible, had all of his notes organized and key points highlighted, and when he got to the church he heard a voice tell him, “Don’t you preach this sermon.” Pops said he wrestled with the voice all the way to the pulpit, got on stage and laid his papers on the podium, and a wind came and blew all of his papers on to the floor. He said “Mind you, there was no windows or doors open. No A/C blowing. Nothing.” Someone helped him pick up the papers, and when he got  them back all of his pages were mangled and disorganized. He said “I panicked.” He then said a prayer right there on the pulpit, and God gave him the topic of suicide.  So he began to preach on the subject, and he said “… the scriptures flowed to my memory and the words began to pour from my lips, and before you know it the whole room was on fire.” Pops said towards the end of his sermon, a man in the last pew of the church jumped up and came running down the aisle saying “Its me, Its me! I was on my way to the Coronado Bridge when something told me to stop my car and come inside this church. I was on my way to take my own life.”

After that amazing story, Pops went out that Sunday morning, still having not written anything more on this paper, and preached the most profound sermon I had ever heard up until that point. I remember standing at my post in disbelief of the man I was serving under.  The power in his gifting was such that it overtook the congregation and I believe a few people joined the church and one gave their life to Christ that service. I’ll never forget that moment because of the effect it had on my life. I had never before had the urge to speak to people so strongly until that day, and to be honest I didn’t believe it was possible for me, being so reserved, but I prayed that I could walk in that type of anointing one day. Needless to say I had no idea what I was asking for or the price I had to pay.

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Clinton Foster with Mulemvo Nianda

There were many times in my life that I needed Pops, but one in particular will stay with me forever. I remember wanting to bless him and his wife financially, not because they needed or wanted it but because my Spirit Man was urging me to. So after a few months of saving I called Pops and told him I had something to give him. I took him to a restaurant and handed him an envelope with a substantial amount of money. He refused. “Son,” he said to me, “I can’t accept this.” After insisting for close to 10 minutes I said to him “Pops, wasn’t it you who told me if someone is blessing you and you don’t take it, you may be blocking the blessing that God has in store for them?” I grinned since I knew that had got him, “So you have to take it.” Convinced, he finally took the envelope, graciously thanked me and commended me for being faithful to what I had heard the Lord say, and then he blessed the gift right there in the restaurant.

Later that week I was arrested for domestic violence.

Ashamed, and at one of the worst moments in my life, the only number I could vaguely remember sitting in the small jail cell with 17 other men was Pops’.  As I dialed the number I felt dirty and defeated. The smell of urine, disappointment, and misfortune was heavy laden. The phone rang once and Pops picked up the phone. “Son, I’ve been waiting for you to call where are you?”

Pops used the money I’d given him a few days earlier to bail me out of jail.

When he picked me up from the bail office I was broken into pieces. Shattered in the passenger’s seat of his car, I was lost. I wanting to run and hide, but instead Pops captured me.  I smelled from not having showered and I hadn’t eaten, but instead of letting me go naked and hungry Pops and his wife clothed and fed me. I was sick and weak, but Pops looked after me. So it was only right that when I had the pleasure of graduating from Mental Health America’s Father2Child Mentorship Program a year later that I dedicated that milestone in my life to him and the God that resides in him and his wife. Had it not been for what they did for me, I would not be writing this to honor Pops today. The wisdom, passed down to me through his transparency about his own life, shaped my development. His love was a firsthand example of how Jesus loved people unconditionally, and it molded how I viewed my relationships to other people, the world, and even my conception of who Jesus was. His kindness and generosity is a testament to all the blessings, the values, and the wisdom that he himself has received. And the reason Pops gave this to me, as he would tell me, is because the gift that was given to him was a discernment to read the hearts of people, and never respond to them any differently to what God shows him.

Reflecting on this gives me hope. Not only because of who Pops was to me, but because what he saw in me through his gifting. While man defines me by my mistakes and judges me in my fallen state, God is looking at the pureness of my heart and positions me to land on my feet. So in essence I never really fall, it just appears that way to those who are watching my every move. But if they watch long enough, just when they count me out and leave me for dead, I’m filled with a rush of new life, and I’m up and running at full speed time and time again.

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Cassandra Foster of Extended Hands Worldwide Ministries

Bishop Clinton Foster and his beautiful and equally spirit-filled wife Pastor Cassandra Foster have been there for me through every tear, every mistake and hurdle, every pitfall or stumble, but also every moment of celebration. Through the years I’ve seen first firsthand how the power in their love for one another and for people has impacted the community.

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Director of Extended Hands Worldwide Ministries, a non-profit organization that actively serves the homeless and aids other organizations in San Diego, CA.  Thousands can attest to her comforting presence in the forgotten streets of downtown San Diego. And Bishop Clinton Foster is the active pastor of City of Refuge International Church as well as a nationally recognized motivational and spiritual speaker.

Thank you for the presence of God that resides in you. You’ve given me more than words can say.

I love you.

My Truth About Love… Part 4

My truth about Love is…

Love is actually very simple, its my life experiences that make Love complex. Alan Watts once stated that “The problem is not to know what is beautiful but how to put it in linear language.”

But why complicate it when Love just is? Why attempt to define what it is or its capabilities? It cannot be boxed or packaged to fit conceptions of what we think it could be, It just is. It exists beyond the borders of our limitations no matter how broad or narrow I set them. Often times we’re uncomfortable with true Love because the boundaries we place on Love is based on our own needs, and our needs are often based on lack and fear, not what we want to be or attain.

My truth about Love is that Love has an infinite number of possibilities, more than what we could ever imagine. We define Love mostly by what we know Love isn’t, but searched for Love in superficial things and ending up with it’s hollow form, never having found it in its entirety.

In my personal quest to find Love, I’ve taken risks, I’ve been without, I’ve reached for what I consciously knew wasn’t Love but had the appearance of what I thought Love looked like, and in the end, I can honestly say I acted out of fear. Fear of loss or being alone, fear of lack or rejection, fear of being led astray. But what’s interesting is, the times I found the most satisfaction in Love was when I was on a quest to find Love within myself. I’ve taken time to reach deep within and found the Love I was looking for exuding from my own inner self.

Far too often, we allow our search for Love to take us to places we didn’t want to be. Love doesn’t hurt. Its not blind, and its not something we can make. It just exists. And until you get to the point where it just exists with you, you will never find it in someone else.

I don’t Love to receive Love in return, but I also don’t Love to be pushed away either.

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